Source: | Dr. Olasemo Ayodeji MaOzi, Nigeria

Timing, “they say” can be everything in the bedroom. It is also important to remind us that, there is no set time when a man should ejaculate during sex, but it becomes a problem if you reach orgasm before intercourse or less than a minute after the start of intercourse.

Premature ejaculation is a serious problem and can (has) affect(ed) marriages and relationships. It is a common issue as about 40% of men have it at some point in their life.


Rarely, premature ejaculation can be caused by a specific physical problem, such as inflammation of the prostate gland or a spinal cord problem; although doctors will need to rule this out.

Several factors may contribute to premature ejaculation. Psychological problems such as stress, depression and other factors that affect mental and emotional health can aggravate this condition (Performance anxiety, Guilt, Relationship problems).


Treatment options range from reassurance from a doctor that the problem might improve in time, through to home methods of “training” the timing of ejaculation.

– Stop and Start technique:

 You and your partner stimulate your penis until you feel like you are going to orgasm. Stop the arousal for about 30 seconds or until the orgasm feeling passes, repeat this a few more times before you orgasm.

– The Squeeze technique:

 Same as the stop and start technique but here you squeeze the head of the penis until you loose the orgasmic feeling, repeat a few more time.

– Countdown from 100 strokes :

The aim here is to achieve 100 strokes before orgasm ( you count down from 100 in your mind with each stroke).

– Some men find that if they think of something else during sex, they can last longer.

-Wearing a condom may desensitize you enough to last longer.

– Kegels exercise (check my previous article on this

-Reduce (or stop) alcohol intake and smoking.

-Seek counselling: a psychologist can help you work through problems like depression and anxiety (a sex therapist may also be of help).


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